Absolutely -- on both sides. (I've seen a number of posts about this that speak of being raked over the coals for not giving what a reader thought were appropriate warnings.)
Yeah, that's one of those things I've thought about a lot, because 99% of the time, I do think being polite and respectful even in disagreement is the best way to get the other person to be polite and respectful of you in return. But people have pointed out in various discussions that in certain situations, especially if you're a minority group, an angry response can do more to get people to take your concerns seriously than a thousand polite, inoffensive requests ever would. And that it puts an added burden on the offended party to have to censor their emotions so as to avoid hurting the feelings of the person who offended them.
So - I don't know! I try not to be absolutist about it as someone who usually isn't part of the minority, whether it has to do with race or culture or being a survivor of trauma. Thankfully, in the end, I'm the only person whose behavior I'm actually responsible for, so I just go forth and try not to be a jerk. :)
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So - I don't know! I try not to be absolutist about it as someone who usually isn't part of the minority, whether it has to do with race or culture or being a survivor of trauma. Thankfully, in the end, I'm the only person whose behavior I'm actually responsible for, so I just go forth and try not to be a jerk. :)